Some Thoughts on Turning 30

cake with succulents

You’re still a rock star – I whisper to myself as I take my multivitamin and go to bed at 9 pm.

Story of my life 🙂

I’m staring down my 31st birthday tomorrow and so I figured one year in is the perfect time to reflect on the things I’ve learnt and the changes I’ve experienced along the turn of a decade. First of all, life certainly did not end this time last year!

I simply think of my 30s as the next chapter in my life and I can’t wait to see what’s in store for me and my loved ones. Your 20s are usually spent figuring out what you want from life and indeed, nowadays I’m feeling more secure and comfortable in my own skin than before.

Adult life is full of things we are never taught how to do and I’m still very far from having it all figured out, but as you get older and learn who you are, it starts to get more straightforward. With an evolving perspective on life, there’s no denying after turning 30 things do begin to change a bit.

This is how it is for me, not necessarily in order of importance:

  1. The oldies station is now playing the hits of my childhood. I still need time to process that…
  2. Staying in over going out. Sitting on my couch with a glass of wine sounds way more appealing than a loud club with unflattering strobe lights. When I’m asked if I want to go out these days, I assume that means an outdoor adventure, binge drinking and falling asleep with my makeup on not included in the schedule.
  3. Start drinking like a grown-up. Alcohol is an acquired taste and the goal is to develop an appreciation for your beverages. Also, time to invest in proper glassware. For more on the subject read this, it’s hilarious.
  4. Heels hurt your feet. I’ve finally come to terms with not being able to navigate 6” heels graciously and so ditched all my cab-to-curbs. The few pairs of nice (and lower) leather pumps I kept are now called sitting shoes. Not here for blisters and bunions any more.
  5. Too old for ill-fitting underwear. Got rid of every odd piece I’d been holding onto: the too tight, too big, too low, too high, the itchy and the one that’s cheap but sexy but more cheap than sexy. Wearing pretty and comfortable underwear boosts your confidence, even when only you and your husband (and wandering eyes in the gym locker) know what your undergarments look like.
  6. Buying things that last. Quality duvets, bed and bath linens because I now appreciate it, and because manky, threadbare sheets and mildewy towels just no longer cut it. When it comes to clothing, spending on investment pieces and having a well-rounded wardrobe are the goals.
  7. Follow washing instructions when you’ve bought said pieces with your hard-earned cash. Well, mostly. I still don’t see why anyone would hand-wash the average cotton-blend tee, but apart from that, through trial and error I’ve established clothing care labels are not put on just to make you claw yourself.
  8. Sunscreen is your friend. Don’t even deny you too preferred to be orange like Paris back in the day! I only buy moisturizer with SPF now, said farewell to self tanners a long time ago and keep visits to the tanning salon to a minimum.
  9. Discovering that first white hair. This actually resulted in less of an emotional breakdown than expected. NBD, I’ve been coloring my hair anyway. At least that’s what I think now, we’ll see what happens when there are a bunch of them.
  10. Accepting the skin you’re in. By now I’m pretty sure being 5’4” won’t change. Less comparing yourself to others, learning to work with what you have and figuring out the style that works for you seems to be the key here.
  11. Respect and embrace your body, be kind to your soul. In the end, your health is the most precious thing you’ll ever own. Eat well, exercise, get enough sleep, take care of your mental well-being and live a balanced life. All this will make point 11. less of a struggle.
  12. Time-management skills are a must. There will probably never be a time ever again in your life when you aren’t juggling multiple personal and professional priorities. But also, repeat after me: you can’t do everything. I’ll finish up with the laundry tomorrow, and that’s fine.
  13. Planning for your financial future. Start saving and tackle budgeting. Setting up a savings account for paying off our mortgage, contributing to a retirement account and a health insurance policy are things I think my 50-year-old self will thank me for.

Can you relate to any of this?

Love,

Fruzsi

Photo featured in title image by Emily Wren

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